Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.People who get involved too quickly shut out others because they don’t rotate dates.While they’re serial dating, they’re losing out on opportunities to date other great people.” want in a guy.” you ask yourself as you scroll thru your texts one lazy Sunday.“How could it be that the universe is handing me such a Herculean task? This embarrassment of riches is your prize for enduring countless shitty dates and rebuffing the advances of grody bros in I-banker loafers who are too drunk to see straight while you’re waiting in line for the bathroom.
The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.In fact a number of women have said to me that they’re afraid of wasting time, while at the same time feeling that time is running out, so they’re trying to effectively compact, for example, what would be a years worth of dating for another person, into a couple of months. It may feel like you’re auditioning them for what you feel is the big job of being ‘The One’ but you and they are people with feelings, libidos, imaginations, and love habits that may be counterproductive to you actually getting the relationship you want – adding several people to the mix just makes it messy.But equally, keeping your options open is about being non-commital and this is the mainstay of being emotionally unavailable and creating limited experiences that keep you ‘safe’ in a self-fulfilling prophecy bubble. Feeling like you have choices may convince you that you have more choices than you have and trap you indecision!