The guy recently got out of a long term relationship (his marriage.) He doesn’t need a girlfriend that he has to call every two minutes, or that he feels obligated to go out with every Saturday night.
Be the girl who takes him to cool restaurants, who suggests an interesting museum, who makes him watch one of your favorite movies he’s never seen. Help him remember that relationships are fun and enriching.
He probably can’t remember the last time he had a good time. Somewhere in between platonic-like touching and mauling makes a divorced guy happy.
Chances are, the last few months (or years) of his marriage weren’t fun. He doesn’t want you plopping yourself down on his lap and making out at the dinner table at a fancy restaurant. Unlike guys before marriage, divorced guys aren’t into games.
Dating during divorce can have legal consequences both for the divorcing spouse and their new partner.
Dating while separated can hold up and complicate the divorce proceedings, can effect custody and visitation decisions, and rarely but possibly, depending on the state, may be grounds for a lawsuit.
Let time pass and let him breathe and get to the future.
On the other hand, you’re still legally married and some ties are still there.
Some relationship experts counsel never dating while separated but not divorced.
Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don’t want to feel obligated to do anything!
Just like divorced women, divorced men are wounded. They want to be loved, they want to be treated with kindness, they want to feel appreciated, and they want to feel like they are still capable of being in a healthy relationship. Some divorced men want to fall in love right away, and some want to take their time.